Dream Child. SLEEP

Lie down with me, Mom. How to teach your child to fall asleep independently. Baby two or three years time to sleep. But he seems bent on playing for time: it gave him some water, then straighten the pad. Requests push the curtains, and five minutes later to push their demands: to him, you see, so more like it. And in general would be better if the mother will sit next to him - until he falls asleep.

Adults begin to get irritated: how many cases still need to change, and desire freedom does not come all! That other kid just touches the head with a pillow, as already asleep. No special lulling not required. And this ... Yes, he's just fun! Do not worry. First, others may also not be different. Secondly, evening fatigue and accumulated anger of parents are not conducive to proper assessment of the situation. 
Why do not they like to sleep?
Kids, unlike adults, do not like to go to bed. They perceive a dream almost just like the people of archaic times. Ancient people thought about sleeping: it is temporarily unavailable. Of course, the kid can not explain his behavior in these words. But every time before going to sleep he experiences separation from loved ones (close your eyes and nothing will happen) and the inability of active movement.
A young child thinks and feels for the most part in the movement. Not without reason psychologists call it intelligence "psychomotor." No wonder that kid with all available means wants to delay a bad moment. In addition, the child seems to take the time to sleep equivalent to pass something very interesting. 
What should I do?
To embedment does not become a torture for adults, try to make this process a certain structure - taking into account the psychological characteristics and needs of the baby.
Every mother can tell her year-old child with a fun play requires persistence of some words and actions. For example, to kiss it needs to be three times: with the first in the forehead, and then both cheeks, before swimming into the bathroom to put a rubber PUPS, and only then - the kid, putting cereal in the same familiar plate.
Parents wonder insistent demands of the child to read at night the same story. The kid in this case closely follows that the text is reproduced in full, without any gaps and replacing words.
Why? At an early age the child learns a lot of information, its development is incredibly fast. Children's conservatism - the flip side of this process, a kind of defensive reaction of the psyche of the variety of impressions. Dynamic world should get some stable characteristics, fixed tags.
Babe fills her life to create their own rituals. Each child's individual set of rituals. But virtually all children try to make the ritual character of his sleep. If you let things drift, drive at night here and there mother (or nurse) and cranky - it can become a ritual for the child, and struggle with this habit will be painful. It is better to bring this process a reasonable procedure and substance. 
Rules of Conduct

You can not lay your baby to sleep in a hurry, accompanying their actions with the words "Hurry, hurry!". It does not give him relax, creates unnecessary tensions could trigger moods. On lying down to keep time with a reserve to be able to incorporate and communicate, and play.
Let the baby before sleep "lose" coming to him lying to: prepare the little bed for the doll and shook it, put to bed, kiss, wish "Good night!" - That is, do all the things that makes his own farewell ritual before bedtime.
If a child is somewhat at fault, the conflict should be allowed to sleep and in no way threaten with punishment the next morning: "Here you wake up - I'll show you!". Kids do not realize deferred sentences, but falls asleep with the feeling that they do not like. This is a very painful experience.
Make reading or telling tales of the traditional joint pastime before bedtime. Read and tell me next to the cot - then the child will associate it with pleasant moments of communication. At night, better to read something familiar. During the reading, Put the baby on your knees, push it to himself if he sits next to, or hold the handle: solid contact gives the feeling of togetherness and security.
The kid is hard to part with their favorite adult. Therefore, the "farewell" to be filled with specific, clearly defined manifestation of feelings, acknowledgment of love and acceptance by the adult. Be sure to hug and kiss your baby, call the kind word before you leave the room.
Sequence of your own actions and joint actions with the child should be repeated every day, so you could say: "We did something, something and something else. Now you go to bed when I go to do business. " Be gentle but persistent. To the appeals of the child after the end of the ritual should not respond.
Try to anticipate some situations to prevent them. For example, you know: packed in a baby crib once you leave, be sure to ask for some water. Encourage your child to drink beforehand, and then put on the table next to the crib with a cup of water. If you are afraid of provocations ("Mama, I shed vodichku!"), Pour water into a bottle with a pacifier. It's okay if a child during the day so a bottle does not use: it will only backdrop to the evening action. Likewise, behave yourself, if the kid starts to ask for a pot. Put the pot in the crib. If a kid wants to go pee, you have to do it without your help.
Heed to the request of the child to leave the night light in the room: many children are afraid of the dark, and there is no reason to leave them alone with their fears. Use the "magic" lamp featuring quietly moving figures or objects. They meet the needs of the child to observe the movement and comfort. But includes a lamp just before falling asleep, when you yourself have already left the nursery. The image of the lamp with all its beauties must be "bound" exclusively by lying down. At other times of the day better to remove the lamp from the eyes of a baby.
Your silent allies in laying can become stars, "manifest" in the glow of a nightlight, or other similar images. You can stick an asterisk each time in different places over the crib kid: "I will go out of the room, and you try to find the eyes a new star!".
Keep in mind: every child has individual characteristics. If a child suffers from sleep disorders or had expressed neurotic manifestations, excessive rigidity of teaching can harm him. In such cases it is better to sacrifice half an hour and wait for a crib until baby falls asleep, as its principle exacerbate already existing problems.