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There are a thousand and one ways to improve their financial situation. Perhaps, the most ancient feminine way - woo the man who has already adjusted its position. Get a rich man - the same thing as access to a wealth of in-game quest. And if you contrive for him to get married, you can relax - the resource is found, offspring are provided.

Define some concepts
Over the last millennium, little has changed: men continue to appreciate visual appeal, and women - the status and financial position. And in fact, and in another case, play the ancient instincts: the attractiveness suggests that the offspring will be healthy, and tight purse - that it will survive.
"Kept woman - a healthy adult woman material contains a man, not made up with her family connections (not husband, not father) - provides a definition of the therapist Maxim Zagoruiko. - However, it does not perform for him for that any work and has no other, any significant, sources of income. " Kept Woman is often referred to housewives who are also on the content of men (in this case, the legitimate wife), but while her husband was doing his job, they do their - are actively engaged in housekeeping and raising children.
Looking for a sponsor For a long time related to the kept woman changed. In Soviet times, the woman was a friend, and all comrades should have been working, so this behavior is not frowned upon. "The largest number of kept in Russia appeared in the late 90's, - says Maxim Zagoruiko. - This is due to the fact that the time was hungry and a bandit, for many women it was difficult to support themselves. 

In addition, there were wealthy men who wanted to show his toughness and start a harem. A civilized way to spend money if they have not yet learned and spend it on "clothes, cars, the women, grub and booze."
Currently, the ratio of the complex kept woman. On the one hand, rejection and neglect - the welfare and activities of feminists have done their work, and place under the sun can find each and in the presence of mind and intelligence it will place increased comfort. On the other hand, there was jealousy on the part of women (usually covered with arguments about morality): smart-car-coats decorations, a gift for beautiful eyes, are in contradiction with the idea of equality and fraternity. "Of course, there is envy - recognizes a psychologist Psychology Center NSU Rima Yefimkin - is money that does not need to earn back-breaking labor, and have free time. This is what we all aspire to - that we had free time and money. But those women who love their job, kept woman just does not envy. "
Who are you? In addition to women victims who are complaining about their girlfriends in the dependent position, but few are aware of their contribution to the current position among the kept women caught "conscientious" - according to Maxim Zagoruiko, they are well aware of what they do, so I do not want to change. However, ashamed of their situation and try not to advertise. "Unscrupulous", in contrast, are often proud that so well settled: "According to the values of the glamor, it's important to be attractive and seductive - continues therapist. - And if a woman could unleash a man out to pick it contains - is seen as a clear indication of her seduction, and female power. "
Meet and "chronic" kept woman - they are not capable of love, do not trust people, and fearing to be used, try to use the men themselves with charm and sexuality. Or the second option - when a woman feels weak and helpless, and sought support of a strong man who will protect her and secure. "If a woman finds support, it is often mismanaged its uses - it is easy to despair, falls into depression. Naturally, the strong man wants to protect it and ensure that "- says Maxim Zagoruiko. 

The girl in the greenhouse Specialists recognize that women kept woman - are frequent visitors in the office of a psychologist. They do not come from a good life. Most often they are under relentless supervision of their sponsor, regularly report on their actions and spending, experiencing both resentment and fear that it will stop. That fear is pushing them to choose the path of least resistance, he also does not break the vicious circle. "For some people the process of maturation is delayed. And the reason for this - fear of being insolvent, the fear of himself - says Rima Yefimkin. - Most women still want to combine both motherhood and career, and relationships. It speaks of maturity of adulthood.
And the unconscious desire to extend his childhood as a time and leads to forms: kept woman - a frightened child in an adult body. "
Frighten the child can only parents - the parents in this case, usually so careful, do not let your child take the extra effort. The output is dependent and timid woman who is looking for a new greenhouse, where it will be sated and warm. Why is she male?
Benefit women is understandable - she gets custody of the financial reinforcement. But what it gets from such alliances men? If we exclude those who did not learn a civilized way to spend the remaining donors are nothing like the character jokes about crimson jackets. They differ from each other, but, according to Rima Efimkin, they all have a psychological flaw - low self-esteem: "If a man has high self-esteem - it is calm and confident that the partner he always will be - not one, so different.
Relations with Kept chooses the man who would like to insulate itself from competition. If next to it will be a free and independent woman, for it will need to constantly struggle to make it freely available nearby.
Kept woman is involuntary, and therefore it is easier to manage. " Such relations are mutually beneficial: the woman gets money and a sense of security, and a man - a confirmation of their status and sense of power. "Not only Kept use men, but men in exactly the same use of kept. This is a bargain, sometimes unconsciously, and each party to the transaction receives its dividends, "- said Maxim Zagoruiko.
From the best deal is always difficult to refuse. That's why no serious external changes kept woman will not itself change your life. "As long as the cock does not bite, the woman did not budge - shares observations from his experience Rima Yefimkin. - Typically, these women either found another man, or become successful business women. In the stories of many successful women there are moments when they lived on the content of men. "