Weaning. Advice of experienced moms

Weaning after 2 years. I want to briefly share with you my experience about such difficult children who are in any reluctant to abandon his chest. Maybe someone handy these little tips.

Weaning after 2 years
I want to briefly share with you my experience about such difficult children who are in any reluctant to abandon his chest. Maybe someone handy these little tips.

   1. Mom clearly has to decide for itself what it wants to complete the feeding right now for this month (ie, the position should be clear), well, how long it will last depends on the child and mother, and different circumstances. Weaning can last from one day (as I had with the first child) for up to two months (as I have with the second). The main thing - not to harm the child, not to rush it.
   2. It is very important in this case, that would be in the family's relatives (especially relatives, who loves children and is constantly in contact with them) that they all supported the mother in this case is not a simple matter, as weaning. So it was not so: for example, a child cries, suffers, his mother tries to soothe, distract, but then get stuck grandmother or dad and start talking: "Well let me take pity on his chest (it), etc. This should not be! (In excommunication) because as a mother she is suffering at this moment it is not very easily from the fact that her child was crying and had difficulty. And here it is necessary to maintain the contrary both the mother and child. If the fight so to speak morally, it is not possible with the relatives then there is obviously necessary to double the patience to show his mother. And do not go on about their relatives.
Dear Momma! What would be weaned off the breast "super babies" need to leave much of their personal affairs, including a long dialogue on the phone. Generally, when you weaned you should at a maximum free time to his beloved child, who in these moments of his little life really, really need it in you, your support, attention, love! And do not forget that it's small, and he needs you, and you're more mature, intelligent woman, you - the mother of this child. Do you understand what's going on, but he did not. Your task - to separate painlessly.
Actions by excommunication It was therefore not easy for me, but I have patience and effort. The most important and most important rule is do not give a child, even if he plays up, crying, swearing, etc. (this is certainly not easy, but without it will not do). Because if you give up, it means - a failure. This is important - do not give a child (as if it was not hard). But! At the same time to be with him! Be tender and loving mother as possible! Do not forget that your child is not easy to understand what my mother always gave sisyu, and now, for some reason does not ... So there it is important to gradually. 

First, reduce feeding to 3 times a day, feed at night as usual. Yet such an important moment. Try to wean the child from the breast after sleep. Trying to put to bed without Sissy different ways. Or when he likes to suck on breasts (all different). You have to wean the habit gradually. You have to deal with a child a lot in these days of weaning ... Walk the walk with him, entertain him all sorts of ways. In general, your task is to divert most of the child. So will some time and so he will gradually be away.
From my own experience. I did just that, reduced to 3 feedings per day (night, left). In this case, I explained to the child that she had already risen, it's big, and soon sisyu will not drink. And all this was a gentle and friendly manner. Then I thought of this game, called it "The Ship". I packed a large pillow on his feet, put her baby back and shook her like this for the feet on the pillow. We sailed through the waves, the boat and she liked it ...
To be comfortable you can, go somewhere lean. Of course, the child is not the first time will get used to, but if he liked, then he will learn to fall asleep that way, rocking on the boat. Ways you can think of many, the main goal to teach your child to fall asleep without the breast. After some time. I firmly decided to remove all the daytime feeding (leaving only at night). It was difficult because as a child to 18:00 beginning is weak, nervous ... And I had to use this method. When she wanted nothing other than breast, I said: "There ferrets live" and puts his hand under the shirt and quietly as if there's something I run ... And she did not want to take the breast out of it. At the same time I play with her in these moments, carried on the hands, hugging, distracted than ever. If she was crying and nervous, then there arises already a rule that I wrote above.
Still, I took her in his arms and told me: I love her, and told me that she loves what she likes. I rocked her (to sleep) at the hands of hugging, telling her I love her very much, and that she has a loving mom, dad that tomorrow we will go for a walk with her going to the store and all that. And of course it is necessary to fulfill that promise! Method with "ferret" and "a ship" we went a month. And she got used to it.
Then, when we learned to sleep without Sisi (well, sometimes sisya certainly was). The time has come that night to remove the feeding. For me it was the worst ... Because the day is okay and wanted to sleep at night ... So I came up with another method. It did not scare my baby, she just felt sorry for me. On this day, I tuned myself that everything tonight I will not let her breast. The whole day before the night I told her that her mother was ill and that his chest at night I can not give it to her and that she did not ask (all of which I told her softly friendly) and she agreed with me, saying that he would not ask. In the evening I smeared chest Zelenko, except the nipples. And when the time came to sleep, I showed her that there sores. Just showed me this is how the collar pulled say: see me so badly bitten by bugs and chest pain. Ie I did not show, did not reach the entire chest, but it would have pounced on her. And so at night she woke up and the first night of weeping, writhing all. Sisyu wanted, but had not asked knew that there's something wrong ... Then I got up to exercise maximum warmth and love, hugging rocked on pens that told me my mother is sick and so on And she immediately calmed down and we both fell asleep together with her, I stroked her. It is also important to sleep in these clothes that the child could not get himself down to his chest!
On the second day everything was simpler. She already understands that sisya sick, of course, asked for the night but it's a habit. And I told her once again showing his chest, told me that it hurts, and my daughter calm down, fall asleep. That is, in principle, and I weaned from the breast. The father's role in this very important or grandmother, or those he loves the child. At night, the mother needs help even just moral support! Mama's important to be persistent patient woman. I think every woman has shown patience, care and feed a child for two years, this woman is patient and loving mother. A patient and loving to cope with excommunication. Good luck to you!