What is it - sex after 50?

"Yes, she is already thinking about the soul must be!" - Say thirties, when their mothers are trying to hint that they have a personal life. And in actual fact? In the twenty and you still head around the possibilities, and you do not even have time to memorize the names of random lovers. In the thirty and you have a baby and work. Then work and school (lessons, two, fought back again to walk, parents' meeting). Later career. And it turns out that 50 comes pretty quickly. And even in the mirror at yourself looking at is not without pleasure, but with the understanding and acceptance. It was then that she happens - personal life. Unless, of course, there is nothing she can not hurt.Stereotyped thinking
- First of all, we impede our own stereotypes, ie the idea that after a certain age, female sex is no longer needed, and simply indecent: children are adults, and even grandchildren are about to appear, and I'll think about sex - says a psychologist, a leading women's training Alain Samoshina.
What to do in this situation? The answer is obvious: to change the internal settings. And how long do you take the initiative in sex? No, no one talks about how to start wearing clothes from a sex shop every day and meet her husband, not with dinner, and with a whip in his hand ... But at least hint that today you are located in more than watching a TV under the cutlets and tea, it is quite possible. And if you both like, you can move and sexy outfit, and role-playing games. Why not?I hate this aunt!
I wake up in the morning, past the mirror go to the bathroom, look at yourself while brush my teeth and realize: "I hate this aunt!" Familiar? Some women have this attitude to his becoming the norm. But this is a direct way to ensure that sex will go out of your life. And, perhaps even before 50.
Because the principal limitation of sex, in the opinion of professionals, often in a lack of self-love. When we do not accept or love your body in 20 years - we have a relatively large number of opportunities to change it. When we were two times twenty, or even more - not fewer opportunities is but one begins to realize that the love for body modifications will not do. Liposuction can be done three times a year, be broken off Botox and change the shape of the chin - if you do not accept yourself, such as it is, then you yourself do not accept. Likewise, we do not accept then and his age, and the changes that he brings to the exterior.
Need to accept and love yourself - this, incidentally, do not hurt at any age.
Incidentally, a friend of mine quite seriously believes that there is nothing that adorns a woman as facial lines and wrinkles at all. "According to him immediately clear - he says - like a woman laughing. And if so, then we will surely find a common language. " He, incidentally, 35 years old, and his current girlfriend ... 53. And they are not complex.Stay away from me: I'm offended!
The third pillar on which stands the age-sex deficit - is unrealized claims to the male gender. As a rule, we are discussing women age accumulate multiple offenses and grievances, and in relation to the man with whom she lives, and indeed, to all men. And obviously, it is absolutely not conducive to good sex.
- But if you live with this person, it means that something good in it necessarily is. - Commented Alain Samoshina. - You just need to learn to see this good again, as at the time when you're just getting started. It is also important to learn to forgive the man his weakness and imperfection, learn to be grateful.And then he gives practical advice: Draw up a list of 25 qualities, which can be commended for her man.
And yet you can create a diary of gratitude to her husband and lead him for a while, even through force, but regularly. Why is a virtue? Because any habit takes time. Write down every little thing or a sign of attention or help around the house - in short, everything that he managed to please you. Because the more you pay attention to good quality, the more good things will appear in your relationship. You'll see!Familiarity with a
And finally, no one has repealed the hormonal processes that occur in women. Menopause - is something with which each of us sooner or later have to face. And so it all depends on how you look at the problem. On the negative side, we all know: flushing, fever, mood swings and much more ... And is there a something positive? Undoubtedly, yes. First, you can forget about the need to protect themselves and give free rein to the instincts, do not hold back anything. Second, you can re-acquainted with his own body and learn to dialogue with it. Because if you want sex but your body is not - it means that most likely still on the dialogue you just had no time.
Do you know what kindness bring you pleasure? Canst not hesitate to tell them a partner, or better yet - show in itself? Do you know how to bring yourself to orgasm? If not - it's time to know yourself better, so that if necessary, help yourself to tune in on sex and horny.
Someone may appear a logical question: for what all the fuss? Why calculate what is the reason that sex had gone out of life? Is not it easier to abandon it or reduce it to a rare ritual actions in bed, as does a lot of steam? Perhaps it's easier. But it does mean that many more years in our country and will not appear sexy, uninhibited and beautiful women over 50. In glossy magazines, which are already long been accused of plotting against the older women still will not be luxurious and charming heroines in an age where pictures can be printed on the covers. And most importantly, that you deprive yourself many nights full of passion, tenderness and romance, after which a man whispers to you: "Beloved, over the years, you become just beautiful!"