Change schools?

When your elegant and troubled child sent the first time in first class, you were filled with a deep sense of satisfaction. You pick up a decent school for their offspring, "the educational process has begun. "

When a family faces the need to change schools - is always stressful. And not only for children but also for parents. However, for any purpose you can move along the path of least resistance, and - to reduce stress to a minimum. Bull?
If you believe that a school with a student child, it does not fit, and have already chosen the best option is to consider a number of things.
Continuity programs old and new schools - a very important thing. Find out in advance what the differences programs and prepare the child. Before the start of transition coach, if assumed to be gaps in knowledge, otherwise the child will feel flawed that it would complicate an already difficult period of adaptation.
Opposite situation is possible: if, contrary to expectation, a new school gives the old for some things, you need to prepare the child for the fact that he has placed himself right in the new class. Newcomer, who discover the "head start" in front of classmates in any field, should not fly in the face of this. Children (especially teenagers) are not always easy to forgive others' successes, and brand new "show off" and did contraindicated. Best of all, if the child is friendly and unobtrusive if necessary, offer assistance to new friends in those subjects in which he is better prepared. Explain to haze, which is really nothing to be proud for him by himself: learn his new classmates at the school where he studied, they would be as well trained in these disciplines.  
Wolves and Sheep
Often, the issue of changing the school gets up from the conflict in the children's team. Not so easy, here too there are pitfalls.
Have you heard something about such interesting phenomena as group dynamics? Any randomly created, a group of people over time splits, and there is only one way stand out "performers" for the leading roles. These group processes are unconscious and are subject to powerful social-psychological laws, so they are difficult to influence. In any team certainly appears Leader, Support Team Leader, Anti-leader, scapegoat, Jester and others The way the roles of, 90% depends on the individual child and his way of "present" themselves to the world, and only the remainder part - on how the circumstances will develop. Leader, is likely to be the leader, where would you not "abandoned", but it can also become a leader in the Anti-situation, if he got into a cohesive team, where the leader is already there. In this buffoon a born leader never be longer than two days. Focus in the fact that the leader can not be a leader and Chute can not stop being a clown. At least - up until he really will not understand what makes it so.
Mechanism for the distribution of roles is as follows: each child is building around that type of interpersonal relationships, which for him the most familiar. This does not mean that the chosen way of life in the group of the most adaptive. If a child is a lot of conflict, this means that the way it adapts to the team, require an adjustment. It makes sense to thoroughly analyze the Chadian conflict situation, since most of its sources, and carefully analyze the "personal contribution" to the child in the conflict.
Before making a final decision about changing schools because of the conflict, consider this. If the scenario in which a conflict will continue to work on, all repeat, and a new school. Before changing a school, it makes sense to start with ourselves.  
Conflict with the powers
Transfer to another school because of conflict with a teacher - a very common case. Move makes sense only if this child is doomed teacher to communicate to the end of the school, and if this teacher "insane."
Remember: the conflict of the child with the teacher - is the thread that runs from the teacher to the child's parents and the child - only the middle link, and the weakest link. Children of conflict parents have more conflicts with their teachers. Often in such families there is an unspoken view that the powers that be subject to "just", implicitly, that this is akin to humiliation. It is assumed that an intelligent man must necessarily behave prickly, sarcastic and even in small matters to boycott the conventional order. Such "dissident local scale" associated with intelligence and independent-minded. Child in any group is held hostage to the traditions of his family. State of conflict with respect for the elders to him as it is an expression of loyalty to the parent house. Think about what you yourself have contributed to the conflict between the teacher and the child, why the "bad" teacher "picked" just your offspring? Perhaps when you find the answer to this question, the conflict will burst like a soap bubble.
Be sure that the guilt of the child in conflict not only suffer if the teacher and other children. In this case, the decision (whether to change school) depends on how strong the stress of the child in contact with the teacher and the teacher as "spoils life for your daze. When thinking philosophically, come to think that the school - just the beginning of a long journey of child socialization. The easiest way to change the kindergarten, to change school - is also possible, but the working group - not always. Adaptive and more effectively - learn how to cope with stress without leaving the "battlefield", learn to relate to the teacher, as a man with his weaknesses, contact with which is inevitable in view of the need to go to a good school.
Of course, it is not necessary, instead of school life hold the race on child survival, making him a false thorns. If the stress is too large or the school is not so good for her to withstand this stress, it is easier to find another child to school. No need to put the child in the position of a fighter, if there are other outlets. Typically, in such situations the child is well aware of what is happening, and if you are unsure what to decide, then it's simple - ask about it in the child. Standing before a choice
Very often, the family faces a choice: to change schools for the best, paying stress adaptation or - leave it as is, for something lost in the sense of children's education. The smaller the child, the easier it is - in junior high school choice depends on the continuity of programs and your sympathy for this particular institution, with the same demand for a small child. Change of staff for mladsheklassnika often too painless. If you have grown up child, you have to reckon with the fact that the child in the first place is losing friends (if any) and secondly - would be forced to do hard work in getting used to a new team. One of the children changing environment is easy, the other - a lot harder.
There are several important points to be aware in this case.
The older the child, the more important to him are friends. If your child has a core supporters - in the classroom, the school will change for him tremendous stress. It is not known yet whether he will benefit from those advantages, which are in the new school vending you. If the principal friends of the child - in the yard, consider yourself lucky. Ideal - and did get into an emerging class. In this case, transfer to another school will give you an order of magnitude easier.
The choice of form, style, Intensive training should only depend on the inclinations of the individual child. The older the child, the more difficult to answer the question, why does he need a school. For you, the answer is clear: "to produce knowledge." And a sincere senior openly tell you: "As what? Hang out! ". I'm not saying that you need to enjoy, if you notice how your child "kicks off the school goosey." Still, choosing a school, or taking the decision to change the institution, must be chosen from those where the child will be comfortable. Schools are different and the problem of parents in choosing the most "suitable" for a particular child's school.