Somehow, the women's alone write more often. But the unforgiving statistics show that men are born, even more than women. And for 20-30 years have become roughly equal. So, if so somewhere there are women without men, it means that there are necessarily men without women.There are different opinions about why people remain alone in full blossom. For example, it is believed that single women are at least three reasons:
* If a lot of time and devote their careers;
* Be extremely capricious discrimination in choosing her husband;
* And prefer regular trips to the conservatory and house parties with friends.
For single men firmly established reputation for playboy and a womanizer, or "mama's" sons. On the other reasons for the average man in the street never thinks or does not want to think about. And if a woman's loneliness always speak with a slight tinge of pity, the man gives it some charm and a certain mystery. Probably no one simply do not care what a man live in his solitude. Maybe they, too, as women, gnawing at night pillow just never will not admit. I want to tell three stories, and learn from them, you make yourself.
Last passionately in love
He felt that he was waiting for her whole life.
First, Alex was waiting for Tanya to eighteen. But to get married in the winter she did not want. She dreamed of the summer, white dress air and sea colors. Looking into her sky blue eyes, Sasha has melted, and he could not insist.
In the spring he was taken into the army. He regularly received detailed letters Tannins and waited patiently for demob.
Vacation dropped him as a winning ticket. Sasha raced home on the wings of hope and love. They Tanya went to the cottage. And a whole week has flown by like a magic moment of luck. He still remembers it as the very best that was in his life.
As a rule, all the soldiers last learn that their brides are married. Sasha was only confirmed this rule. On the ill-fated wedding, he wrote to my mother, begging somehow survive it. Prior to muster remained little more than a month.
Tanya quietly married and expecting a child. When Sasha saw it awkward to sit on the bench because of the huge belly, his heart throbbed painfully. He suddenly felt that it was his child. He ran home like a madman, and began calculating deadlines. But it did not converge. It was not his child. But still, when Tanya had a son, Alex brought her flowers to the hospital and begged to divorce her husband. She sent him a brief note in which he wrote that after the operation does not feel very well, and then promised to always talk with Alex about everything.
Four years later, Tanya still left her husband to her parents. In the summer they went with Sasha to rest. Sasha decided that finally they will live together. But after resting Tanya went back to his parents. She asked Sasha to not rush it. It was so simple and familiar, that he did not mind.
On their studies abroad Tanya Sasha said a week before departure. She said she did not want to upset him. They must agree to get married, when she returned a year later.
Tanya at Christmas sent a postcard with greetings and poskriptumom wrote that she was offered a contract for several years, and probably the summer she would not be able to come.
Family tradition
It is known that people will love to invent problems, then to heroically overcome. I tell this story with the words mother of the protagonist, because it is she came to me for a consultation with a request to help develop the personal life of his son.
Andrew was of about the Armenian family. His mother and father were born and raised in Moscow, but piously revered its historic roots. And these roots are demanding that the son got married only to Armenian girl. Andrei since childhood he knew about it and even almost got used to the thought. But once in his life came to Masha. And, of course, as expected, she was Russian.
While they just met, went to the movies, went with friends to the country and as a fun, parents are not bothered by Andrei there is no talk about the future. All the problems started from the day when his son announced that he and Masha will live together. At first, he politely reminded of his duty, then in turn went to the charges with threats of excommunication from the house. All attempts by Andrew to tell parents about their feelings were perceived as stupid childish unworthy of Armenian men. For the educational process were urgently called relatives from Yerevan. Now, a reminder of the unconditional observance of ancient traditions lasted from day to day with exhausting frustration. Finally, Andrew gave up, and relatives have left.
Psychologists say that the action in progress is stored permanently. Masha and remains eternal unfulfilled dream.
Years passed. Parents from time to time tried unsuccessfully to marry off his son some good Armenian girl. But to marry Andrew categorically did not want.
When he passed for thirty, parents have become blind to the fact that he sometimes stays overnight with some "friend" in the hope that in the near future, their son will lead to the house of his bride. But Andrew did not bring anyone. A mother and father have wanted ponyanchit grandchildren. And somewhere deep inside him was almost as what nationality is their sister.
His mother came to me when Andrew was over forty. He touchingly concerned about the parents, but when asked about his own family, a future wife and children invariably replied: "Why, I've already got so used." Careerist
Several years ago, Igor came to conquer Moscow. He always knew that, even if in his hometown he could make a brilliant career, it will only victory in a small provincial town of the CIS. But Igor wanted to larger scales. Moscow seemed like a good launching pad to enter the world level. So he decided: either all or nothing.
But, unfortunately, nothing is given to us so hard and bitter as their own heroic decision. As a psychologist I want to warn that if you set a goal, and with admirable tenacity to move it, keep in mind two very important points. First, the process of achieving the goal should be fun, then the result will also bring pleasure. And in this connection suggests itself: a second important point: in pursuit of the goal try, as little as possible to step on the throat "of his own song."
Moscow met Igor prohibitively high prices for apartments and stringent requirements of discerning employers. And the first few months of his troubled nostalgia for a cozy apartment in his home town and pretty docile wife. But, having collected will in a fist and threw away all sentimental thoughts from his head, Igor took to do it, why here and coming. Having spent six months at the firm, he went in the direction of London to study. A touching telegram from the northern town told him that he now has a daughter Helen. But instead of joy Igor felt terrible annoyance, the name of Lena, he did not like never before. And now he was angry that such an important event took place without his participation. Over the phone instead of congratulations Igor shouted at his wife, and she quietly hung up.
Six months later, Igor returned to Moscow on a white horse. He was offered the post of chief financial officer, with a loan to buy an apartment. Wife timidly requested to attend the christening of their daughter. She is very missed. Igor honestly tried to find time to ride, but he did not succeed. Daughter baptized without a father. And at this time, as befits a man staid, Igor carefully chose an apartment in downtown Moscow. He certainly was very proud of myself, and when his wife once again asked her husband to come, Igor angrily called it a provincial fool. She began to cry and hung up.
Mighty repairs and buying expensive furniture took a lot of time, effort and money. To my shame, Igor remembered the birthday of his daughter only two weeks. A little tease for my wife, because she did not remind him of this important date, he still bought all the gifts and went to his hometown.
All the way Igor imagine how all fell upon his neck and will compliment. But on the eve of his family home hangs a strange silence. The father chuckled at his mustache and stood in the hallway, and my mother too hastily went to set the table. Rush to the neck for some reason nobody wanted. The father broke the uncomfortable silence: "And you already know that away from you wife." And Igor, his clothes, went to his classmate, who now lived with his unconscious wife. He had no doubt that it will return quickly.
Opened the door with his wife, daughter in her arms. Somehow, she did not even surprised to see her husband on the doorstep. Igor impulsively stretched out his arms to his daughter. The girl was frightened and cried.
Two hours of heavy talks yielded nothing. He seems to have tried everything: from persuasion to immediately take them together with her daughter in Moscow, before the threats take the child and never allowed to see. But despite his best efforts, she will not want to go with him and requested a reasonable peaceful divorce.
Wounded male pride would not let Igor rest. He longed to look again at the man who once was not too successful colleague, and now has withdrawn his girlfriend.
Dima opened the door, and Igor saw a brightening face of his wife. She took her daughter in her arms: "Helen, look, daddy has come." The girl, too, smiled, held out a pen and Dima said: "Dad" ... And Igor felt like the earth takes him from under his feet.
He left the same evening, hating Moscow and its new, empty apartment. For the first time in his life he did not want to live.
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