The crisis of the best age

Psychologists have so accustomed us to the word "crisis " that we have already put themselves easily to any "critical" diagnoses. Creative crisis, relationship crisis, a critical age ...

"Quarrel with your husband? - The crisis of the family, he always comes in the seventh year of marriage. " "A child does not listen? So this is the age he has such a critical! "" I wanted to replace her husband, work and generally send all away - well, it's as easy as - the crisis is said to forty! Or "lusty" - of - people. " American researcher age crises Gail Sheehy argues that every person of either sex survive several crises. Among them - a serious life crisis in thirty years. It applies not only to his personal life, family relationships, and life in general.
The essence of the crisis in that approaching the thirtieth anniversary, we are starting to feel a new vitality.
There is a certain experience, formed the image and most of us already have a lot to be proud of. Career achievements, children, bought a flat or built baths near her house by his grandmother. But for some reason, all our achievements to thirty cease to please. Well, I have a flat, and why, actually, it should not be? It is absolutely normal, because in thirty years, people overestimate the achievements: it suddenly ceases to please post a research assistant or the most important assistant.
... We will critically review their past.
Women often make bold steps in the range from weddings to divorce. Some reason to thirty years it becomes clear that the guy with whom you fell in love with eighteen, and who still looms you through the apartment, you become thoroughly stretch ...
... There is the desire to wrest passed a piece of life and start all over again.


A lonely person feels a push prompting him to seek a partner. A woman who was once pleased that sits at home with children, tends to see the light. Childless parents decide to have kids. And almost everyone who has seven years of living in a marriage, is disappointed.
... We strongly wish to realize oneself as a woman as a mother, as a specialist or a creative person. Probably because we first recognize - the time is not infinite, it is ever going to end ...
If all this is the place to be, do not despair: after all, pass this crisis can be only a rare light-hearted individuals. Others also need it just to survive and understand: when you tridtsatnik, it's not so bad. After all, it's time ....

    * Live on their own, independent life without accounting to his mother about every evening spent outside the home and on every purchase.
    * Feel free to talk to the boss, because as professionals we know his worth.
    * Treat with men as we want, because there is no fear to perform her grandmother horror stories "to remain an old maid."
    * Do not be afraid to look funny (embarrassing, too fat, too short-sighted, too leggy - underline, remembering a sixteen-year).
    * Talk with your child is not just about Mickey Mouse and Barbie, but also about a man who is offering you a hand and heart.
    * Dress and apply makeup with such virtuosity that no one would never guess where we are "not the most spectacular" place.
    * To open a business, because now at last it became clear what it is we - Assy.
    * Celebrate the holidays in the company that we like and not-in-law.
I think that's enough! Everyone can add something of their own, the meaning is not changed: thirty-year man has the authority and courage to have your own opinion. However, each phenomenon has its drawbacks
Principal stress we get from knowing that we have not those, what dream to become. In part, this is understandable: after all, few people wanted to be a junior accountant or a stenographer. However, steel. And if up to thirty, we do not think about it, then after thirty comes to realize that time flies and we can not manage to change something.
Many people first begin to notice their dependence on family (husband, parents), and burdened by it. In this case, alas, not everybody can change the things I would like: after all cases, the circumstances that are beyond us.
However, "Because every situation there are at least three exits - writes Daria Series. - Change the situation, change yourself or leave it as is. " Well, if you think about it, really out can always be found. Moreover, the crisis of thirty can be a powerful incentive for you to rethink living and change their lives. The main thing: do not lose heart after thirty years, life has just begun, and we have already won how many there are. A lot to start a new life!