If a child wants to celebrate New Year's Eve alone

Your child asks to let him go with friends to celebrate the New Year or Christmas. How wisely do parents in this situation? Fear for your child is quite natural for parents. But at the same time, we should understand that a son or daughter have the right to independent living.It is very easy to spoil relations with the younger child of not always wanting you to understand, but a categorical prohibition also does not solve the problem. Forbidden fruit is known ...
First try an honest answer to yourself questions

    * Is your adult child? Psychologists believe that somewhere from 14 years to arrange holidays without adult is quite acceptable.
    * At what age did you have to let parents to such a party?
    * Do you trust your child? If not, why?
    * What exactly are you afraid of, and whether your fears real reason?
    * It is very important for you to explain to a child, what are the reasons that makes you worry for him.
After weighing all the pros and cons, choose one of three options

    * And yet you are opposed. In this case, ask the child to a decent alternative: a trip to the holidays, or the joint holiday with friends who have kids the same age. Offer does not celebrate Christmas at home, and somewhere on the street, in the area. You can take part in festivals. Your task is to make sure that the child was interesting.
    * In principle, not against, not for the whole night. This is a compromise. Let your offspring will do a couple of test calls home. Agreed that he will stay at the festival, for example, up to 2 o'clock in the morning and then come back home. If this is you can meet him or to call him.
    * I let go, but only if ... And here you must specify the "rules of safety."
Safety, or coaching for parents

    * Try to find out where and with whom your child will be celebrating. Make it better in a friendly conversation - a chance to learn the truth. If you do not know guys, that your child is going to have fun, try to meet them. Offer to help in the preparation of the holiday, arrange things so that his company was visited at home.
    * Risk the offer's apartment as a venue for the event. Not the fact that survives dishes and apartment will be clean, but at least your child will be at home rather than in someone else's apartment.
    * Emblem Has your child to alcohol? There are not only talking about spirits and champagne, for example. Explain possible side effects from drinking alcohol. Any fact can happen, but it is better to avoid trouble.        * Your intuition tells you that your child is ready for sexual exploits? Sexual literacy campaign is to engage in long before the "critical" age.There are already important degree of trust between parent and child. Talk about this topic with your child: what to avoid, what to fear. Emphasize that mutual love - a very important component of successful sex. And, perhaps, put your teen a condom in his pocket.
Parents on the note

    * Know the exact address and telephone number of places where it will be your child.
    * Agree to call up at regular intervals.
    * Let your child will necessarily be recorded emergency phone number.
    * Be prepared in case of unforeseen circumstances come quickly for the child.
    * Try to calm down and not get nervous.
    * Learn to trust your child.
Trust - a lot! Let your child trusts you!